When a Child Teaches You Who You Really Are

Your child will dismantle your identity brick by brick. Thank them.

Your carefully constructed identity - the one built on achievements, control, and self-importance - shatters the moment they arrive. Suddenly, your urgent email isn't urgent. Your perfect schedule implodes. Your needs become secondary. You are here to serve.

And it's the most liberating destruction you'll ever experience.

When my daughter demands my full presence while I'm lost in tomorrow's worries, she's pulling me into the only moment that actually exists. This one. 

And when she loves me the same whether or not I get that job, whether or not I get that raise, whether or not my hair is gray and my brow is wrinkled, she reminds me that to her, I’m so much more than my salary, my title or my follower count. 

The world has told us that we're only valuable and worthy of love because of what we can accomplish or accumulate. 

But children show us the truth: we're valuable and worthy of love for the same reason they are: simply because we exist.

Your child doesn't come to validate the stories you’ve been told about your worth. They come to free you from those stories. 

What if the destruction of your identity is actually the beginning of your freedom?