Two Things Are True

Your brain wants to pick a side. But resilience lives in the space between.

When crisis hits, it's so easy to default to black-and-white thinking. Either we're handling it well or we're falling apart. Either everything is fine or everything is ruined. Either we're strong or we're weak.

But what if two things could be true at once?

You can be heartbroken about your layoff AND excited about new possibilities.

You can feel overwhelmed by caregiving AND honored to be trusted with someone's vulnerability.

You can be terrified of starting over AND energized by the chance to rebuild.

The world taught us that contradictory feelings mean we're confused. That we need to pick a lane and stay there.

But your brain has more neural connections than there are stars in the galaxy.

Let me say it again for the people in the back: your brain has more neural connections than there are stars in the galaxy.

You were BUILT to hold complexity.

When you allow both truths to exist, something remarkable happens. The part of your brain that was using all its energy to resolve the contradiction can finally relax. You stop fighting reality and start working with it.

"Two things are true" means expanding your capacity to hold the full complexity of being human.

The grief AND the gratitude.
The fear AND the excitement.
The ending AND the beginning.

Resilience means having room for all of them.

If you're feeling both right now, you're doing it right.